Sunday, April 14, 2013
What Family Really Is
Paul say in Eph. 3:14-15, “For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name.” Heaven on earth is a family business. Among the Godhead, there is absolute trust, absolute love, absolute honor and absolute freedom to be who they are. Every family on earth has at its core, the Father’s DNA.
The strength of the family lies in its foundation. The foundation of family is unconditional acceptance. It is the place where you get to be fully you and I get to be fully me. The family is the place of vulnerability. I am safe to be myself. In the family, everyone has a voice. My opinion matters, not just the opinion of mom and dad. My feelings count.
Families are to be established on the principles of 1) love 2) honor 3) responsibility 4) truth 5) faith 6) vision 7) integrity.
The family is the place where we learn freedom.
The family is the place where we learn to communicate to others what we are going to do and do it. The family is the place to learn to effectively communicate what is going on in the inside of us by sharing what we need and what we feel in an atmosphere of safety that has been cultivated in a culture of honor.
The family is the place where we learn that our choices, both good and poor, have consequences.
The family is the place where we learn that I am powerful. And inside of a powerful family unit, I learn how to handle being a powerful person and how to relate to other powerful people. The family is the place where we learn to clean up our messes. The family is the place where we learn to respect and value others.
The family is the place where we learn who we are in Christ. And with that knowledge in hand, we learn to celebrate who a person is without stumbling over who they are not, while drawing the best of their divine design and imprint to the surface of life for the world to see. This is the process of honor. Life flows through honor.
The family is the place where we learn maturity. The process of maturing is simply learning to be your same self no matter the situation or circumstance. It’s the fruit of self-control. The family is the incubator in which we cultivate demonstrated mastery of self-control.
The family is the place where we learn how love works. Love is rooted in fearlessness. Love always requires a choice.
The family is the place where we learn the importance of heart to heart connection. The goal of familial relationships is always connection. Solving an issue is never more important than connection. The family demonstrates that being in relationship takes precedence over being right.
The family is the place where we learn to love God with all of our heart, soul, mind, and strength. It’s the safest place to exhibit passion. The family is the place where we learn to love others as ourselves. It the safest place to exhibit compassion.
The family is the place where we learn true humility. True humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less. The family is the place where we learn to serve, learn to love, learn to be generous.
The family is the safest place to fail and the safest place to be ourselves. The family is the place where I learn that I am fully loved. The family is the place where strong, powerful people are created.
When families are restored strength arises. The word family in the Greek means lineage or bloodline and comes from the root word pater which is the Greek word for Father.
Make your home a place where the love of God is daily demonstrated through the power of God. When we have a personal experience of God loving us and being transformed by that love, we are able to reproduce His love, His life, His honor into our families. When people see healed families, it sticks with them. It makes an impact. May your family reflect the agape love, honor and freedom that permeate all of heaven.
©2012 Felicia Murrell