Orphan or Son

An orphan spirit is not a demonic spirit but rather a lifestyle one takes on because of a sense of fatherlessness. Orphans are insecure. Orphans keep to themselves. They are easily threatened. They don’t have an identity or their identity is based on what they do not who they are. Orphan thinking always leads us away from God. Orphans are always looking for the high place, the place of recognition, there is a constant pressure to work for and earn everything that they believe they deserve.

Here are a few things you may here an orphan say, : “I’ve got to fight for what is mine.” “If it is to be it’s up to me.” “If I don’t do it, it won’t get done.” “If I want it done right, I have to do it myself.” “I can’t depend on anyone.” “I don’t trust anyone.” “I’ve been hurt so many times; I will never let anyone close to me again.”

Orphans often feel inferior, are independent and self reliant. Orphans are selfish, self centered, self focused. Orphans are critical, judgmental, uncooperative. Orphans are impatient. Orphans show ingratitude, always focusing on what they think they deserve. Orphans always have a need to be right. They display disloyalty and will play people against each other to win people over to their side. Most orphans are full of pride and have a great fear of man, meaning that it matters to them what men think. They are consumed with pleasing people because of a need to be loved, a need to be accepted. Orphans are often disobedient, rebellious, and buck authority. Even though they want to be loved, want to be accepted, they almost always feel like they never will so they respond in anger, they don’t try, they do the opposite of what is asked or expected of them.

Christian Orphans do all the right things: obedient; works hard; follows all the rules. They are good at performing, religious striving. They read the bible more, pray more, fast more, serve more, do, do do but experience little to no joy; not walking in or experiencing the fullness of God.

The good news is that Jesus promised us in John 14:18, “I will not leave you as orphans, I will come to you.” The Father, Himself, declares in 2 Corinthians 6:18, “And I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to Me," Says the Lord Almighty.”

Inside each of us is a little child that needs to be loved. When we humble ourselves and submit ourselves in childlike faith to be parented by Papa God, then He can come and minister His love to us. We understand that sons, who come to Papa in childlike faith, trust.

Sons are carefree – they don’t worry or reason things out. Sons just accept it at face value, they are sincere – there is no pretense, Sons are honest. Sons are innocent. Jesus was our perfect example of what God desires from all of us as sons, and that is to live a life of absolute trust and dependence on Papa God. We know that were created by love for love to be loved and to give love. God made us to live in the center of His love. We are most fulfilled when we find our home in God’s love.

Let Papa love you today.

Repeat this prayer aloud:
Abba, I long to be loved by you. I come to you as a little child. Have a relationship with me. Accept me. Treat me as your own. Adore me. Love on me. Teach me how to love you. Abba, I trust you. I know that you have my very best interest at heart. Lord, I open my heart to you. Touch all those areas of my life that cause me pain. Minister your love to me. God heal the hurts and the wounds. Heal all of the unloved places. Cause my ear to hear your voice and my heart to receive your love. Papa, teach me how to receive. I want to be a son(daughter). I want to be your son(daughter). I give you permission to invade my world with your love.

In Jesus Name, Amen.



For more teaching on the orphan spirit, Mark Stibbe’s book, From Orphans to Heirs and Jack Frost’s book ,From Spiritual Slavery to Spiritual Sonship are both great resources.



© 2010 Felicia Murrell